I was parked in the parking lot of the grocery store waiting for my wife (I really dislike shopping for groceries). A car parked close to mine and a teenaged boy got out of the car and he appeared to be frustrated about something. All of a sudden I heard all this cussing but I couldn’t see who was doing it. It sounded like a female and the words she used were filled with much venom.
I saw people getting out of the same vehicle the frustrated teen got out of. Then I saw the source of the verbal venom. It was a woman who obviously was the lad’s mother and there were a couple more children in the car with her.
As parents, we have instructions for raising our children. God has given us several passages as guides, but I’ll use one in this post.
Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go,
And when he is old he will not depart from it.
I’m going to focus on “Train up a child in the way he should go.” A lot of problems we see in today’s youth are the result of wayward parents. Parents that do and say just about anything they want to in front of their children. In my position in the workplace, I’ve seen parents smoking dope in front of their children. I’ve seen parents who watch pornography with their children. I’ve seen parents partying with their children. And yes. I’ve seen parents who cuss at their children and call them out of their name, like words that start with a “b” and words that have the initial “MF”. And when the child does the same thing, the parent wants to chastise the child.
If you don’t want your child to be addicted to porn, keep it out of your house. If you don’t want you little girl being permiscuous, stop bringing this man and that man in your bedroom. If you don’t want your son disrespecting women, stop disrespecting women in front of him. There is so much we, as parents don’t need to do or say in front of children. There are things we should do in front of our children as well.
Developing a relationship with God, through the saving blood of Jesus should be a priority in our lives. We need to let our child hear us pray, reading God’s word and trusting in the Lord for our needs. If a child can copy our ungodly behaviors, that child will copy the godly behaviors.
Children are a product of the parents. The apple don’t fall to far from the tree. They are a chip off the old block. Give your child a positive pattern to grow into. Love your child, teach your child and spend time with your Jesus and your child. And when they get older, they will remember the examples you set and they will do just fine.