Your child’s teacher has degrees from college. He or she has studied very hard meet the qualifications to teach your’s and everyone else’s child. But does that mean they don’t mistakes or imperfect judgment calls? Of course not. On occasions, your child’s teacher could be making the wrong call concerning your child’s behavior. This is probably the area of your relationship with your child’s teacher where disagreements may happen. Keeping in mind the teachers have to maintain control of their classrooms so the children will be able to learn and excel. And us parents can either make the teacher’s task at hand doable or undoable, depending on how we handle the situation.
I remember a few years ago, an extreme incident happened at one of the schools in my area. A parent disagreed with how her child was disciplined by a teacher. The parent came to the school, walked in the classroom, confronted the teacher, and the parent assaulted the teacher. The teacher retaliated and they fought in front of the children.
As I said. This is an extreme incident but I wanted to use it to show how out of hand things can get. So I’m offering these tips on how to disagree with your child’s teacher.
If you disagree with the teacher, never do it in front of your child.
- Listen to everything the teacher says. Allow him/her to give the facts before interrupting.
- What I did with my children was, I had the teacher give me their version of the incident in front of them and then ask them was the teacher lying on them. If I asked them about the incident at home, most of the time I got; “No I didn’t. They didn’t see me do/say anything.”
- If you disagree with the teacher, never do it in front of your child. Ask for a conference with the teacher and discuss your disagreement with them out of earshot and eyesight of the teacher.
- The teacher has to keep control of his/her class. If you call the teacher out in front of your child, that teacher will never be able to correct disruptive behavior or address learning issues.
- Always try to resolve the issue with the teacher before taking it to the principal.
In a lot of cases, your child’s teacher may spend more time with your child than you do. So you must establish a good relationship with teachers. You need them for your child’s education and the teacher needs you to support them in their task to educate your children.